New drop-in service launched to encourage male domestic abuse victims to seek help

Stoke-on-Trent's Arch support group is now offering a drop-in service for men who want help and advice on domestic abuse.

According to the organisation, nearly 2.5 million men have experienced some form of domestic abuse in the UK.

Abuse can take on a number of forms, and isn't just violence. Forms of abuse can include isolation from others, controlling your life and finances and changing your behaviours and how you think about yourself.

Arch are asking men to consider a number of questions to ask themselves, that could reveal that they are in an unhealthy relationship:

Have you ever been...

  • Putdown and embarrassed?
  • Told what you can do or where you can go?
  • Isolated from friends or family?
  • Threatened you won't see your children?
  • Shoved, slapped or hit?
  • Forced to drop criminal charges, because no one will believe you?
  • Threatened by your abuser that without you they will commit suicide?

The charity says that if a man is answering "yes" to any of the above, it may be an indication that they could be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship with a current, ex-partner or even a family member.

The new service that Arch is offering gives those who feel they may need more advice in this area to have a confidential one-to-one chat at their offices in Stoke-on-Trent.

"John" (not his real name), is a previous Arch customer who was referred to the service by the police after asking for help when his ex took his son. 

He said: "I never pictured I was a victim of abuse, I just thought she was difficult. 

"You don't need to consider yourself a 'victim' to need help. If you're frustrated, feeling controlled, or constantly going along with it because it's not worth arguing, get in touch and get the support of normal guys in a similar situation.

"It has made such a difference to my life."

Arch will be running their drop-in sessions Tuesdays to Thursdays from 4.30pm to 7.30pm.

For more information you can also visit archnorthstaffs.org.uk/malesupport

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